My 2020 Goal is to not set any!!

I’m done with Goal Setting! I know the theory.  I’ve read the books. I’ve attended the training, but I quit! It simply doesn’t work for me, so this year I’m doing things differently!

Over the years I’ve tried and tried to set goals but I have two struggles, firstly defining my goal into something that’s “S.M.A.R.T.”, and secondly remembering what I’ve set! So I guess it’s no surprise that I stumble across notebooks from various years that all contain similar, still unachieved, goals. I still want to read more, have more control over my finances, live in a nicer house, see my friends more, have great relationships with my husband and kids, run a marathon…

So this year I’m taking a different approach! One of the books that challenged my thinking last year was James Clear’s Atomic Habits. In it he talks about the power of habits and simply improving by 1% every day.

I’m no longer worrying about defining what the end goal looks like, but simply stacking habits that will help me go in the right direction.

For example, my dream of running the marathon, is simply too big! I tried to break it down in to smaller stages but injuries and time pressures stopped me fulfilling it. So this year I’m focusing on exercising 3-4 times a week. If I simply keep showing up and improve by 1% who knows what I’ll achieve by the end of the year!

I have a dream of living in a beautiful home but we don’t currently have the resources to tackle it head on. So each year it’s waited as an unobtainable goal.  However, if I can build a habit of making the most of what we do have, regularly improving spaces by 1%, who knows where the house will be by the end of the year.

Some things are values that I hold but struggle to define as a goal. It’s important to me to have great relationships with my husband and kids. How can be condensed down into a task that can be marked as completed? So instead I’m building the habit of spending weekly 1:1 time with each of them, ensuring we have fun and keeping the lines of communication wide open.

So if like me, you struggle with goal setting, maybe thinking about the habits you are building will help you move in the direction you want to travel?

Published by Becky Lewis

A wife & mum of 3, who also works. My To-Do list is often unrealistic, but in the midst of all the crazy I've learnt to have fun and enjoy life!

4 thoughts on “My 2020 Goal is to not set any!!

      1. I suppose it’s just that I wake up each day and I view it as a ‘NEW’ day. So while I have dreams and aspirations (goals), I am hesitant to view them as long term. Things change, and life is different each day. My dreams don’t change, and I will never give up hope – but I don’t pressure myself too much. Just enough to try and get things done, but not enough that it becomes such a focus that not achieving it leaves me disheartened and frustrated.
        I don’t know if any of that makes sense, ha ha! I suppose it’s really just about choice.
        Here’s hoping your year ahead is a fantastic one, where even the seemingly unattainable will come true 😉

      2. It makes perfect sense 🙂 our dreams can provide a long term compass for the direction of our lives. And it sounds like you choose to let them lead you each day with freshness, rather than be driven by them and strive to attain.

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